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Tis an interesting weekend here. My sister's ex, who still lives here, is going off to the US for some surgery, staying with some of their partners for recovery, and their mom is here to help out with the household and spend time with her grandkids. So yesterday was a bit much, with 2 extra people in the house to navigate dogs around. Hades is a big, reactive, German shepherd. He is mostly just barky but he is a BIG dog and that's intimidating. We have a house that is pretty easy to close him off from people so that everyone has space but it mostly falls on me to do it when I am home, because I am more aware of where he is, etc, and also not everyone is like. Considerate of him, even though he is the one who lives here. Today the ex and their gf left early to drive into a giant snowstorm because they are not really great at planning and forethought! Good luck to them I guess.

In other news, I finished the audiobook version of Braiding Sweetgrass, which I highly recommend, and started listening to the Iliad, Lattimore translation read by Charlton Griffin. I signed up for an audible trial for this as I couldn't find anything free, but I'm really enjoying it. It is kind of fun to listen to the epic verse read aloud, but then just translated it into colloquial modern speak for my own entertainment as we go. Eg: Hektor: OMG Paris you are making us look like a bunch of punk bitches wtf. Being pretty is NOT enough. Now I have to fix this. Paris: Valid, but also sorry can't help it if I'm so handsome! And so on.

Meanwhile I'm working on writing my candyhearts assignment (its going slowly but I hope will come out well), and slowly working on knitting a top for which I'm altering the sleeves from bell to bishop.... third time's the charm on getting them right I hope!

Watching through My Hero Academia with Nary, and Fangs of Fortune (gorgeous and sad) with Nary and our friend Kennesaw, Theoretically watching Mysterious Lotus Casebook again with my sister but she is often busy when I have time for it. Playing-ish with Nary (she is playing but I'm helping :V) the second Apollo Justice trilogy. Playing in so many ttrpgs (but online), including right now, but its not my turn so I figured I would try actually writing something here.

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Best of luck to the ex with their surgery!

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they made it safely, at least!

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That's good! And with any luck the weather will be better on their way back. (Or they'll have had a sobering enough experience on the way out to wait for better weather for the return!)

I think they do have a more flexible schedule for return, at least. But no one tells me anything so I don't know when that is anyway ;p

Poor Hades. It's so hard to have new people around, especially people who don't understand dogs and reactive dogs.

Glad to hear the ex made it to the USA safely, and fingers crossed for a safe return, too. Have they made plans for, I dunno, no longer living under the same roof in the near-ish future?

I've also signed up for an audible trial, as my local library is a busy place and the audiobooks constantly seem to be signed out. I'm really glad it's getting so much use, but it's been frustrating not to be able to get even one audiobook to listen to. Audible has been decent so far--I've discovered a new mystery series that I'm enjoying--and I am kicking myself for not getting back into audiobooks sooner!

Hades is doing okay - it would be easier to manage in nicer weather but its just so COLD right now, ugh. As for the ex - lol of course not. Despite them being the one to end things and declare their desire/intentions to leave, they continue to live in the household and reap the benefits thereof while contributing as little as possible. because they want to be just a roomate (who shirks household responsibilities, comes and goes as they pleases and brings people over that we then have to work around) but still sit down to 'family' dinner that my sister puts together.

As for audible - I haven't decided if I'll keep it, as it seems pretty expensive for a monthly fee. I'm unclear if you can continue to use the app to listen to things you already own though, or what. So I'll have to see. My local library is pretty decent and gives me access to a bunch of other ones as well, so maybe I'll be able to make do with it.

Ugh, I'm sorry.

Speaking purely from anecdotal experience, I've seen a few trans folks go through a kind of second adolescence when they first transition as an adult, complete with the behaviour we associate with teenagers. I have no idea if it's just giddiness from being able to finally be themselves, or if it's something to do with the HRT actually inducing a kind of second puberty, but I've seen it in so many people that it makes me wonder if there isn't something there.

That doesn't make it any easier on the people around them, especially if there are relationships changing or ending. I'm sorry your whole household has to bear the brunt of it. :(

My previous experience with audible tells me that you don't have access to your audiobooks if you're not paying for the service. Right now I'm content to go through the "free" library included with the subscription and the one credit per month, but we'll see if that continues to be worth it long-term.

I think it is both - it does have a second puberty effect for sure, but also people who are discovering themselves anew figuring out that their new identity doesn't align with the old. I don't think it really fully explains their behaviour in either case, and certainly doesn't excuse it. I really just wish they had been more honestly about that from the outset, including with themselves, about how things would go. They just started wanting a very different life and relationships, and it was very 'your boundaries are making me deny my True Self so I'm going to do what I want because the fact that you are hurting is a You Problem and expecting any kind of consideration from me is toxic, actually, but also let's try and stay together and you can compromise on everything and I'll compromise on nothing'. Anyway. I have feelings about them and their behaviour, can you tell.

also boo audible, boo!

I am inclined to agree with you. Even if there's a reason, it doesn't excuse the shitty behaviour. I wish you all weren't so far away, I could at least drop off a casserole every now and then or something. :(

Yeah :( Also I think Griddle would get along very well with the Spaniels, they could wreak havoc on the local wildlife together ;)

Oh my gosh, yes! But the Britts are very shrill and very loud, so I hope you have strong eardrums and understanding neighbours. :P

elanya

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